Marriage

12 Marriage.png Next to the drawing of my daughter with crepe paper hair and the netball roster we have this verse on a magnet on our fridge.

Proverbs 21:19   New International Version (NIV)

 Better to live in a desert    than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.

Well… maybe not, but perhaps we should have it on our fridge?!

(Yes fellas, this is one of those moments that you DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES AGREE)

…But… (clears throat)… is it sometimes perhaps in some small iddy biddy way a little true?

Today I watched my son play hockey. Man he is so delightful to watch. Unfortunately he is a bit too polite, letting the opposition players have a turn of the ball, bless.

Today however was special, because today I discovered hockey Mums. These women lined the hockey pitch in their active wear for non-active spectators and screamed their lungs out like a herd of rhinos in active labour. Oh em gee they spewed ferocious, beastly blasts of acrid ‘advice’ for 90 mins straight. I was ashamed to be a woman.

And then I thought… wait… these women make me look good! See Paul! I’m not like that! I’m a good wife! I smiled to myself as I sat on the chair Paul had carried for me from the car, sipping my coffee.

And then from somewhere deep deep in my brain, the part I try to ignore, a thought crept up. Am I? Am I a good wife?

Am I perhaps sometimes quarrelsome and nagging?

(Yes fellas, this is one of those moments that you DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES AGREE)

Is it good enough for me to just not be truly horrible? Do I need/want to be a proactively good spouse?

Note to self-DO NOT read proverbs Proverbs 31:10-31   The Message (MSG)

  A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long… Blah blah blah it gets worse and worse ladies for the next 30 verses!

Never spiteful… I guess maybe sometimes?...

(Yes fellas, this is one of those moments that you DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES AGREE)

She treats him generously.

Hmmm. Ok . time to get off the computer and make my fella a cup of tea.

And maybe I should aim for the proverbs 31 wife, and less of the hockey screamer, do you think?

(Yes fellas, this is one of those moments that you DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES AGREE)

Ps. I love you Paul, you are the spouse I aspire to be. (Yes Paul, this is one of those moments when THERE IS NO CORRECT RESPONSE YOU SHOULD STEP AWAY, STEP AWAY FROM THE CONVERSATION WITH CAUTION).